How to Attract a Man
July 31 2010
Hi, continue reading if you're like me, partly mystified by the process of courtship, dating, and relationships, but also interested in learning how to understand men, what makes them tick, how to get their attention etc, then you've come to the right place. I want to present you a lot of research I've done on the subject. I've pored through books, websites, psychology and human behavior journals to get at the information presented here. I think the more we learn, the better it is. Of course, sometimes there's so much information it's like drinking from a firehose. That's partly why I put up this website on how to attract a man. Here you can also find out about resource sseful to motivated women.
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On this site you can find original articles from various authors (including me) written for understanding the dynamics of attracting men. I've also provided reviews of some other sources of information I've found. Hopefully this will be helpful to you.
Flirting is the fundamental skill of attraction
The skill of how to attract a man is acquired over a woman's lifetime. When it comes to courtship, and more specifically flirting (the process of attracting a man) if you are like most women, you find courtship a daunting process. The reason why is that we are not born with the ability to flirt or attract members of the opposite sex. All of our social behavior is learned through watching, imitating, and practice. But we spend all of our younger lives learning in school that doesn't teach us any of this. So it's not a surprise if you find yourself mystified, or slightly discouraged, by the activity of courtship.
Courtship is as old as humanity
But not all is lost because we all have some innate ability in how to attract a man. Flirting is a defining feature of being human and is what enables you to get a man. It is a way to facilitate relationships between members of the opposite sex, to strengthen the connections between men and women, and affirm mutual affection whether or not it is taken to the next level. In modern times, our methods of communications have broadened from face-to-face to cell phone, e-mail, perhaps with a corresponding decrease in our skills at flirting. But if we think about it, face-to-face communicating and flirting is probably the most effective way for two people to assess their mutual compatibility and thus the best chance for couples to form and sustain a strong healthy relationship.
Casual flirting is a social lubricant
The skills in knowing how to attract a man has also been studied by psychologists. One of the effects of flirting, if done correctly, is that both parties feel a sense of well-being. It boosts one's self-confidence as well as strengthen the ties between people. But the key is that it should be done correctly. As with any kind of interaction, this takes practice and perhaps some practical knowledge. For example, one might ask how would we initiate contact with a stranger? Or how can we read signs that other people give off? Or what sort of topics can I bring up to further the conversation? There are some simple things that we can do to further flirting. For example, it turns out that for both men and women, appearance through selection of clothing, accessories such as jewelry and hats, can make a massive difference in the kind of attention one receives from strangers.
The various stages of flirting
So are flirting tips for women just a bag of tricks that one dumps out during a conversation? The answer is no. If you ask someone who is observant in human behavior, he or she will tell you that we pass through a sequence of steps in our flirting interaction. It begins even before any verbal communication has taken place. Two individuals may find that they are briefly glancing at each other. The glance extends for a few moments (perhaps fractions of a second) longer than normal. In some cases, this indicates interest. If the glances are exchanged again, one or the other may smile to heighten interest. The female may touch her hair or tilt her face so as to attract the attention of the male.
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